Grant Brünner: Bassguy

I had a small epiphany in the last week or so, and I think I finally figured out a way to put it into words.

I asked myself the question “What do you want out of another human being in a romantic relationship?” I thought about it for a long while. The common responses are something along the lines of “Trustworthiness” and “Loyalty.” I agree that those are good qualities, but that didn’t quite fit the bill.

So I thought of a specific woman that I met in the last couple of months. She is a few years older than me, and the relationship is completely platonic. I merely find her to be an incredible person. I figured that she would be a good template of which to base my answer to the question. I started listing off attributes. The list was tremendous, but that still wasn’t what I wanted.

I then decided that I needed to distill all of those attributes into one descriptor. After much pondering, I found that word. “Sweet.” I want my significant other to be sweet.

Sweet, to me at least, describes a woman who is genuinely pleasant, caring, affectionate, and plain ol’ nice. If a woman can sincerely be described as “Sweet,” all of the flaws in the world melt away.

That was my small epiphany. I think knowing what it is that I want will actually make it easier to find.